By Dr. Rick Schaefer, March 14, 2012
Do you realize your thoughts impact how you see things. I have a great story to share from the ETM Book Review Conference Call Monday evening.
One of the listeners (I will call her Mary) had been through a Weight Watchers weight loss program and had successfully lost 30 pounds. She was walking through a shopping mall with her husband when out of the corner of her eye she spotted a woman.
Mary said to her husband, “Look over there. There’s a woman wearing the same dress as me and she looks better in it than I do.” Her husband responded, “That is your reflection. That is YOU who looks so good in that dress!”
By Dr. Rick Schaefer, March 6, 2012
Charity and giving are essential components to happiness. Stretching it even further to anonymous charity will elevate the feeling of joy to a greater level. When an anonymous gift is given, the recipient embraces an awareness that they are being seen, and that they are not alone. Upon acceptance of the gift, they may be inspired to pass it on to someone else in some way. However, the most significant gift is to you, the giver. The feeling of bringing joy to a “stranger” who has absolutely no expectation of this gift, is nearly indescribable. It can only be known through experiencing it, and it can bring about a permanent shift in you: a new way of knowing joyfulness.
Pick a restaurant that you like to go to, preferably with friends, family, or coworkers. The next time you are there, as you are finishing your meal, look around and choose one table to anonymously pay for their meal. Let your instinct be your guide. Perhaps a father with his children, a woman with her elderly mother, or a senior eating alone will catch your eye. The only criterion is that they will finish their meal after you leave the restaurant. After you have chosen your table, contact your server and let them know that you wish to keep this act anonymous. Ask the server to quietly get their bill and put it on your tab, including the tip. If you are with your kids, it is fun to let them participate in the choosing of the table. They will feel charity in it as well.
By Dr. Rick Schaefer, March 4, 2012
It seems hard to believe that a little bit more self-love every day can add up to a life filled with the magic of happiness, but it works. And it is perfectly magical!
Giving yourself love is really easy to do once you understand what it is and then get the hang of it. So, what is it anyway? It is making the effort to put your attention on things that please you for the simple reason of feeling that pleasure. It is not complicated and anyone can do it. It is a CHOICE. It is choice that a person makes because they value themselves and know that they deserve to make that choice.
By Dr. Rick Schaefer, November 7, 2010
I’ve been pondering this question for a week. It keeps coming back up. Seems like it’d be really nice to have a World Flag flying beside the U.S. flag and the Wisconsin flags in this community. You probably know what a big fan I am of Humanism over Nationalism, but yet it’s wonderful to be part of a community. Be cautious to never let that community energy act to exclude anyone else. The world flag is the ultimate in inclusion. Each thread of humanity is represented.
I naturally moved my thought to what it would look like. It feels like the four strands of humanity would all be represented equally: sunrise, midday, sunset and night. That is yellow, white, red and black. What a beautiful flag weaving these colors equally across the fabric… the true fabric of life. Other images come to mind: holding hands, yin and yang, equal exchangeable pieces, etc.
By Dr. Rick Schaefer, October 23, 2010
I’d really like to help you free your mind from undue burdens and feel the lightness of thought and inspiration found in de-cluttering.
In order to achieve a feeling of total security and total freedom, it is necessary to let go of our attachment to physical things. Detachment holds the wisdom of uncertainty and possibilities. When you embrace uncertainty, you will find security. This is a bit tricky to grasp at first, but when you realize that you truly can’t predict the future, then the only alternative is to embrace the idea that there are some uncertainties. In accepting those uncertainties, you will feel more secure. When you embrace possibilities, you will find freedom. Knowing that there is more than one path that can please you can help you to feel freedom and happiness. A simple first step toward detachment is letting go of small physical items. Let’s get started!
About Dr. Rick
Rick Schaefer M.D. is an established author and has many articles published on the web. He is also the author of the Online Training Program: Extreme Thought Makeover… 37 Days to Maximum Life! This program is available via the link at the left. Rick has 19 years experience as a physician in the operating room and running a pain clinic, and has 12 years experience studying personal development, success, and the law of attraction. He has been President of the Anesthesia Society, has taught at the Medical College of Wisconsin, and has been featured in the Wall Street Journal, on National Public Radio, and been a featured speaker at regional and national success seminars. He is currently a partner consultant to eLocalBiz Marketing and the Medical Director of Clear Nail Institute.
Mission Statement: My mission is to help you feel a little better and more hopeful by offering specific tools to help improve your life through the transformation of your thoughts. I also aspire to help those who want to go deeper feel massively better by using more personalized and in-depth methods.